Why Self-Compassion Works Better Than Self-Criticism
You mess up. Your brain says: “Why are you like this?” You push harder. You punish. You call it “tough love.” But here’s the truth: self-criticism doesn’t motivate — it drains. Self-compassion? That’s what actually helps you grow. 1. Criticism Activates the Threat Response When you harshly judge yourself, your brain hears danger . It releases: Cortisol (stress hormone) Adrenaline (fight/flight response) This shuts down problem-solving and increases anxiety. It’s not motivating — it’s paralyzing . 2. Self-Compassion Activates the Care System When you say, “I’m struggling, but I’m still worthy,” your brain feels safe . It releases: Oxytocin Serotonin These foster resilience, clarity, and emotional strength. 3. You Can Be Kind and Accountable Self-compassion isn’t: Letting yourself off the hook Avoiding responsibility Being self-indulgent It is : Telling the truth without cruelty Asking: “What do I need to learn and what do I need to he...