Mindful Living Lab

– Detach your self-worth from other people’s behavior – Someone cancels plans last minute. Your boss gives short feedback. A friend reads your message… and doesn’t reply. And just like that, your mind goes: “Did I do something wrong?” “Are they mad at me?” “I must’ve messed up somehow.” If this spiral feels familiar, you’re not alone. Taking things personally is emotional Velcro — everything sticks to you. Let’s learn how to unhook. 🤔 Why Do We Take Things So Personally? We link our worth to others’ approval We’ve experienced rejection in the past We’re hyper-attuned to tone, silence, and withdrawal We assume we’re the cause of discomfort — even when we’re not But here’s the truth: Most of what others do is about them , not you. 🛠️ 4 Tools to Stop Internalizing Everything 1. Ask: “What Else Could Be True?” When your mind fills in the blanks with negativity, pause. Instead of: “They’re ignoring me because I’m annoying.” Try: “Maybe the...

– A simple guide to emotional expression for overthinkers – Have you ever tried to tell someone how you feel… …only to spiral into “What if they think I’m too much?” …or “Maybe I’m just overreacting.” …or worse — you just stay silent ? You’re not alone. Expressing emotions clearly is a skill — and it’s one we’re rarely taught. But the good news? You can get better at it. ❓ Why Is It So Hard to Say What We Feel? We second-guess our emotions. (“Am I being dramatic?”) We fear judgment or rejection. (“What if they don’t care?”) We were taught to suppress feelings. (“Don’t cry. Don’t complain.”) We don’t have the right words. (“I feel... uh, weird?”) Most of us were never given the emotional vocabulary to make sense of our own internal world — so it gets stuck inside. 🔍 Step 1: Identify What You Actually Feel Start by moving beyond vague words like “bad” or “fine.” Try these prompts: “Do I feel hurt, or do I feel rejected?” “Is this anger… or fear dressed ...