How to Support a Friend Going Through a Hard Time
You see the change in them. They’re quieter. Tired. Distant. You want to help — but you don’t want to say the wrong thing or make it worse. Here’s the good news: You don’t need to fix them. You just need to show up. Here’s how to support a friend in pain — with empathy, respect, and care. 1. Reach Out — Even If It Feels Awkward Try: “Hey, I’ve been thinking of you. No pressure to respond.” “Just checking in. I’m here if you want to talk or sit in silence.” “You don’t have to go through this alone.” You don’t need perfect words. You just need presence. 2. Listen More Than You Speak Resist the urge to: Give advice right away Compare their pain to others Share your own story too quickly Try instead: “That sounds really hard.” “I can’t imagine, but I’m here.” Silence — with open, soft attention. 3. Ask What Support Looks Like to Them Everyone needs different things. Ask: “Would it help to talk? Distract? Cry?” “How can I be with you i...